What is Codependency & Anxious Attachment Style? Codependency is a term that describes an unhealthy way of relating to others and is associated with an anxious attachment style that can lead to emotional dependency....
It was the kind of relationship that looked great on the surface, but underneath, the passion was eroding. Paula had been dating her boyfriend, Alan, for two years. On the surface, it seemed like...
By Carista Luminare, Ph.D. The definitions of Love are endless. How you experience Love depends on your history, values, beliefs, andbehaviors. A loving relationship creates a two-party system in which each person’s Lovestyle™ (attachment...
I’m going to ruffle some feathers here, but it’s got to be said. One BIG REASON you’ve been processing your feelings for years in talk therapy… But still wind up in codependent relationships with...
By Yasmin Kerkez “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special, too.” – Ernest Hemingway Codependency is a behavioral pattern, and...
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD. Breaking the Bonds of Emotional Abuse. Do you feel you’re expected to be a doormat for someone? And, like it? If you’re codependent, you may not realize that you have...
By Marlena Tillhon MSc. While codependency is something that comes from within us and therefore extends to allareas of our life, it is usually most noticeable in our romantic relationships. Many of us dofairly...
By Stephanie McPhail, MS. The holidays can be especially challenging for those of us who have suffered from the effects of being in a toxic relationship. But regardless of your past experiences, they don’t...
By Stacy Brookman, Resilience and Performance Coach. It’s that time of year again. A time for ending a year and new beginnings, when we reflect on the past year and set resolutions for the...
By Michelle Farris, Relationship Psychotherapist. When you struggle with codependency, spending the holidays with family can be challenging. You want to participate but secretly you may resent it. Codependent behaviors like giving too much,...
By Marshall Burtcher Codependency is a strategy for surviving chronic chaotic, unavailable, abusive, and harmful relationships. It is a last-ditch effort to try to get three specific needs met that are essential to our...
By Candace Plattor, M.A. Even though we have been conditioned to believe that this time of year is wonderful and sparkling and amazing, many people know it isn’t that way for everyone. Our TV...
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
