AVAIYA’s next free online event, Healing From Narcissistic Abuse & Relationship Trauma begins soon. Don’t miss it! According to Guinness World Records, the world’s oldest person is a 115 year old named María Branyas...
When I think about codependency, I’m aware of many emotions that a lot of people feel – such as scared, lonely, worthless, and hopeless. In my opinion, codependency issues are what lie beneath all...
Family relationships are often seen as a source of support and love, where individuals can seek comfort and solace. However, in some cases, family relationships can become toxic, especially when one or more members...
Emotional terrorism sounds as scary as it is and is as scary as it sounds. Recognizing it is a must. If you have co-dependent tendencies and traits, you are easier prey for emotional terrorists....
By Susan Ball, Abuse Recovery Expert. Over-giving is synonymous with co-dependency. Giving and giving to get approval, validation, love, affection, and a sense of belonging is part and parcel of co-dependency. Why do we...
When I grew up, I believed that love would heal me, that being in a relationship would do that for me. I believed that, one day, an amazing human would cross my path and...
By Marshall Burtcher. Do you find yourself being absorbed in other people’s feelings, preferences, experiences, or priorities? Do you take on those things as your own? This is often called, “enmeshment”. Enmeshment is when...
By Stephanie McPhail, MS. March is Women’s History Month in the United States, an observance created in 1987 to increase awareness of women’s impact on society. The month-long celebration aims to highlight the struggles...
Codependent individuals are known for being highly empathetic, caring, and giving. One of their defining challenges is they often focus so much on the needs of others that they neglect their own well-being. Codependency...
Growing up, my household had a lot of secrets: my mom was a prescription drug addict; my dad was codependent with her – and my sister and I didn’t understand that this environment wasn’t...
Maybe like you, I have been on all sides of the boundary spectrum. Several years ago, I was completely boundaryless (hence one of the reasons I came to this work). I was exhausted, barely...
By Stacy Brookman, Women’s Leadership Coach. Do you find it difficult to make confident decisions? Perhaps you feel stuck and are unsure of which path to take in life. Making important decisions can be...
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
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Stop Gaslighting Your Inner Child
By Candace van Dell. In my work, I often talk about what we do to our inner child is what was done to us in childhood. We learn to parent our inner child, punish her/him, neglect, reject or abandon (if this is what was done to us). Many of these experiences create codependency...
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Codependency and Childhood Neglect: What You Need To Know
By Briana MacWilliam. How does childhood neglect contribute to codependent relationships in adulthood? In this article we will explore a definition for childhood neglect and codependent relationships, and explore how one begets the other. You will also learn how to recognize if you have experienced childhood neglect...
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The Natural Attraction of Codependents and Narcissists
By Carista Luminare. I have been a relationship counselor for 44 years, specializing in how the bond with our primary attachment figures impacts our adult intimacy dynamics. Our childhood experiences and development define our capacity to know what Love IS (and is not). Because of my childhood and later life relationships...
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Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship?
By Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D. When you must tread lightly because of a fragile ego, tiptoe around someone’s short temper, or be careful what you say or how you say it… that’s walking on eggshells. Do you recognize that you are walking on eggshells? It’s a difficult and uncomfortable way to be in relationship with someone! Are you always...
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By Krista Resnick. Codependency created much pain and agony in my life. One of the ways it manifested most was my extreme lack of self trust. I would overthink decisions to death, fearful that I would choose the ‘wrong one,’ or upset someone if they didn’t agree or were disappointed by my choice. I was terrified of...
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What Codependency Really Is & What It’s Doing For You
By Marshall Burtcher. Have you been told any of these things about codependency:
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What Does Codependency Look Like in Family Relationships?
By Yasmin Kerkez. Codependency is certainly not a new condition, and awareness of codependency is growing in the greater community. At the same time, it’s also one of those labels that many of us have heard of but don’t know exactly what it involves. In the media and online, it is most commonly linked to romantic relationships, people who exist in a caregiver role...
