Betrayal can be one of the most painful experiences anyone can go through, but for those who struggle with codependency, the pain can be even more intense. Codependency is a pattern of behavior where...
By Marshall Burtcher. A heads up: This article will be a bit of what I call “bluntcake”. Bluntcake is a term I apply to concepts that challenge us to reflect on how we are...
By Michelle Farris, Psychotherapist and Codependency Expert. For people with codependency, detaching emotionally is like pulling teeth. They become overly attached in relationships which makes it harder to let go of control. In this...
By Susan Ball, Abuse Recovery Expert. Confidence is a tool you can use to break the cycle of co-dependency, stand up for your personal wants, needs, and desires, and use your voice to say...
Most people have heard the saying “It takes two to tango.” Although this can have a variety of meanings, when taken literally it makes total sense. The tango is a sensuous dance, with intricate...
By Stacy Brookman, Women’s Leadership Coach. Are you feeling stuck and unsure of which path to take in life? Do you find yourself constantly procrastinating or plagued by indecision and regret? Making important decisions...
By Candace van Dell, Spiritual Coach & Healer. When we grow up in dysfunctional families, we learn an overwhelming sense of responsibility and also unnecessary self blame. Our parents are wounded and do not...
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD. GOOD NEWS! The biggest A-HA that many folks have is coming face-to-face with their learned co-dependence. Yay! Co-dependence creeps in when relationships are unequal, when one person has more power...
By Carista Luminare, Ph.D. Appreciation is a simple act, and its effects are profound. If you feel estranged from your partner, it’s likely that you’re withholding supportive comments from each other. People respond better...
By Marlena Tillhon MSc. I used to think that I was good at relationships. Great even. I was nice, generous, tolerant and forgiving. I had lots and lots of friends. Everyone liked me. That’s...
By David Charon and Stephanie McPhail. Do you feel like you’re trapped by your personal history? You may be an “emotional hoarder”. What do we mean by this? Think of your psyche, your mental...
Codependent relationships are more common – and toxic – than you think. And especially when one of the partners in the relationship is an addict, codependent relationships can be extremely challenging, exhausting, and difficult...
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
