By Briana MacWilliam MPS, ATR-BC, LCAT Art Therapist, Author, & Attachment Coach. “In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.” – Mignon McLaughlin. These poetic words...
By Michelle Farris, Relationship Therapist. When you’re struggling with codependent behaviors, relationships aren’t easy. You try hard to make your relationships work but sometimes your own behavior may actually be creating toxic relationships without...
By Marshall Burtcher. Real healing is organic and emergent. Put another way, we discover healing has happened. In my work, there are four specific signals that students and I watch for. These signals inform...
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, Relationship Crisis Consultant. Eda LeShan, an American writer and educator, once wrote, “When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people.” If...
By Stephanie McPhail, MS. The world of dating and relationships is fraught with complexities, misunderstandings, and yes, occasionally the downright toxic. Too often, professional women who’ve encountered a toxic relationship find themselves falling into...
By Stacy Brookman, Leadership & Resilience Coach. An Ocean of Emotions: Diving Into the Depths of Overwhelm and Codependency Life can often feel like an unpredictable ocean. One minute you’re smoothly sailing, and the...
By Candace van Dell, Master Coach & Spiritual Teacher. The root of Codependency is Insecurity. The root of insecurity is unworthiness, the root of unworthiness is uncertain identity. The root of uncertain identity is a lack...
By Carista Luminare, Ph.D. We all get triggered from time to time. In almost every relationship, people react depending on their individual experiences and sensitivities. Here are 10 common triggered reactions. Which of these...
By Candace Plattor, M.A. How to Set Effective Boundaries When You Love an Addict: Three Excellent and Proven Strategies ** PART 2 ** Welcome back, Everyone! Another month has flown by since I told...
By Krista Resnick -Master LifeCoach/Restorative Yoga Teacher. People-pleasing, overhelping, overgiving—we can give it lots of different names, but the consequences to putting yourself last all the time are generally the same. You may have...
By Susan Ball, Abuse Recovery Mentor. What is Shame? Shame is often viewed as a corrosive emotion, a feeling that stings and stains, one that many of us wish we could avoid. But what...
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
