By Marshall Burtcher. Codependency’s drive is to keep us safe by nurturing a sense of connection, safety, and worth through pleasing others, minimizing upsets, and promoting a sense of belonging through appeasing and tolerating...
By Michelle Farris, licensed psychotherapist. Codependent relationships are based on an unhealthy dependency that turns relationships into obligations. As a result, these relationships deplete your self-esteem and ability to feel whole. In this article...
By Susan Ball, Abuse Recovery Expert. The holiday season, with its festive decorations, sparkling lights, and cheerful music, is a time of year filled with joy and celebration. For many, it’s a time to...
Why being kind to yourself is the first step. By Stacy Brookman, Leadership & Resilience Coach. Codependency is more than just a buzzword; it’s a complex emotional and behavioral condition that affects one’s ability...
By Candace van Dell. For my dear recovering Codependents…… I got you! In my 10 years as a coach, I have seen highly sensitive people or what I like to often call unhealed empaths...
By Stephanie McPhail, MS. How can one transform their painful past into one of their greatest assets? Life in a toxic relationship feels like an unending roller coaster of chaos, pain, and hopelessness. It’s...
By Marlena Tillhon MSc. I used to think that codependency was love. Which means that I didn’t know what love was. So the love I knew felt suffocating, restrictive and stifling. I found it...
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
