Monthly Archive: July 2024

How to Stop Trying to Figure Out Your Family

By Laura K. Connell. Many of my clients have a limiting belief that holds them back in their healing, and it’s one you might share. It’s the belief that you must figure out your...

How to Practice Detachment to Unburden Yourself in Relationships

By Michelle Farris, psychotherapist. If you struggle with codependency, detaching emotionally is like pulling teeth. Learning how to let go becomes a long and painful process in codependency recovery. We never let go without...

The Hidden Money Issue In Codependency

By Candace van Dell. Are you struggling to support yourself financially? Do you keep finding yourself back at home or living with people who are less than good for you and your wellbeing? Do...

Understanding Why Codependents Push People Away

By Susan Ball, Unapologetically You Mentor. I fought the label “codependent” for ages simply because I consistently pushed people away. How could I be codependent when I slammed the door on so many relationships,...

The Power of Saying ‘No’: A Path to Healing from Codependency

By Stacy Brookman, Leadership & Resilience Coach. In my personal life, I found myself constantly saying ‘yes’ to everyone around me. This wasn’t just a habit; it was a deep-rooted issue that created a...

Center Yourself In Your Life To Start Knowing Yourself Again

By Marshall Burtcher. De-centering others and centering yourself in your life is *necessary*, not selfish. Centering yourself means asking, “does this option take me where I want to go?” It means saying no deliberately...

Building Your Support Team: Who You Need to Thrive After a Toxic Relationship

Stephanie McPhail, MS. Imagine you’re on a journey through a dense forest. The path is unclear, the terrain rough, and the destination, though promising, feels a million miles away. Now, imagine having a team...

Enmeshment, Individuality & THE REAL YOU

By Cheryl Fidelman, The Conscious Codependence™ Coach. Oftentimes in a Codependent relationship, we lose our individuality because we are so focused on believing and serving our partner’s truth (or what we think is their...

This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict

By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...

7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It

By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...

Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships

By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...

What Is Codependency?

By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..

The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency

By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...

Stop Gaslighting Your Inner Child

By Candace van Dell. In my work, I often talk about what we do to our inner child is what was done to us in childhood. We learn to parent our inner child, punish her/him, neglect, reject or abandon (if this is what was done to us). Many of these experiences create codependency...

Codependency and Childhood Neglect: What You Need To Know

By Briana MacWilliam. How does childhood neglect contribute to codependent relationships in adulthood? In this article we will explore a definition for childhood neglect and codependent relationships, and explore how one begets the other. You will also learn how to recognize if you have experienced childhood neglect...

The Natural Attraction of Codependents and Narcissists

By Carista Luminare. I have been a relationship counselor for 44 years, specializing in how the bond with our primary attachment figures impacts our adult intimacy dynamics. Our childhood experiences and development define our capacity to know what Love IS (and is not). Because of my childhood and later life relationships...

Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship?

By Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D. When you must tread lightly because of a fragile ego, tiptoe around someone’s short temper, or be careful what you say or how you say it… that’s walking on eggshells. Do you recognize that you are walking on eggshells? It’s a difficult and uncomfortable way to be in relationship with someone! Are you always...

How To Cultivate Self-Trust

By Krista Resnick. Codependency created much pain and agony in my life. One of the ways it manifested most was my extreme lack of self trust. I would overthink decisions to death, fearful that I would choose the ‘wrong one,’ or upset someone if they didn’t agree or were disappointed by my choice. I was terrified of...

What Codependency Really Is & What It’s Doing For You

By Marshall Burtcher. Have you been told any of these things about codependency:

That it is a disease?
That it is an identity?
That it is part of who you are?
That it is permanent?
That you’ll have to cope with it for the rest of your life?...

What Does Codependency Look Like in Family Relationships?

By Yasmin Kerkez. Codependency is certainly not a new condition, and awareness of codependency is growing in the greater community. At the same time, it’s also one of those labels that many of us have heard of but don’t know exactly what it involves. In the media and online, it is most commonly linked to romantic relationships, people who exist in a caregiver role...