By Laura K. Connell. Childhood unmet needs often lead to self-sabotage, including codependency, in adulthood and even physical illness. That’s because the coping mechanisms we used as children to survive abuse and neglect work...
By: Cheryl Fidelman, The Conscious Codependence™ Coach Even though you’re speaking the same language, it can still seem as if what you’re saying isn’t being understood or it’s being completely reorganized into something not...
By Candace van Dell. Did you grow up with a not good enough Mother? She was there but not fully emotionally available or consistent? You may be experiencing the maternal void from not having...
By Marshall Burtcher. I view healing codependency as a life-long process of re-discovering myself and who I want to be. It is a journey through three phases: Survival, Healing, and Creation. And so far,...
By Stephanie McPhail, MS. Imagine walking through life wearing a pair of foggy glasses. Every experience is blurred, every opportunity clouded by the remnants of past pain. Now, imagine wiping those lenses clean, seeing...
By Stacy Brookman, Resilience and Leadership Coach. In the journey of codependency recovery, we often encounter a paradox: the intense desire to heal and grow, coupled with the overwhelming urge to meet everyone else’s...
By Susan Ball, Unapologetically You Mentor. Traditionally, codependency is described as an excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support due to an illness or addiction. But what if...
By iKE ALLEN, Founder of AVAIYA and Creator of ReThink & Somatic ReThink™ I still remember back when I would spend many of my nights staring at the ceiling while the rest of the...
By Michelle Farris. Navigating codependency in relationships can often feel like a relentless cycle of pain and self-sacrifice. Often, codependent people develop unhealthy coping strategies like using substances or over-working to avoid these feelings....
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
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Stop Gaslighting Your Inner Child
By Candace van Dell. In my work, I often talk about what we do to our inner child is what was done to us in childhood. We learn to parent our inner child, punish her/him, neglect, reject or abandon (if this is what was done to us). Many of these experiences create codependency...
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Codependency and Childhood Neglect: What You Need To Know
By Briana MacWilliam. How does childhood neglect contribute to codependent relationships in adulthood? In this article we will explore a definition for childhood neglect and codependent relationships, and explore how one begets the other. You will also learn how to recognize if you have experienced childhood neglect...
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The Natural Attraction of Codependents and Narcissists
By Carista Luminare. I have been a relationship counselor for 44 years, specializing in how the bond with our primary attachment figures impacts our adult intimacy dynamics. Our childhood experiences and development define our capacity to know what Love IS (and is not). Because of my childhood and later life relationships...
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Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship?
By Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D. When you must tread lightly because of a fragile ego, tiptoe around someone’s short temper, or be careful what you say or how you say it… that’s walking on eggshells. Do you recognize that you are walking on eggshells? It’s a difficult and uncomfortable way to be in relationship with someone! Are you always...
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By Krista Resnick. Codependency created much pain and agony in my life. One of the ways it manifested most was my extreme lack of self trust. I would overthink decisions to death, fearful that I would choose the ‘wrong one,’ or upset someone if they didn’t agree or were disappointed by my choice. I was terrified of...
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What Codependency Really Is & What It’s Doing For You
By Marshall Burtcher. Have you been told any of these things about codependency:
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What Does Codependency Look Like in Family Relationships?
By Yasmin Kerkez. Codependency is certainly not a new condition, and awareness of codependency is growing in the greater community. At the same time, it’s also one of those labels that many of us have heard of but don’t know exactly what it involves. In the media and online, it is most commonly linked to romantic relationships, people who exist in a caregiver role...
