When You Realize There Is Nothing Wrong With You

By Candace van Dell.

Healing from emotional wounds, or what we will call codependency, is really healing from the misbelief that there is something wrong with you, deficient in you, or not enough about you.  

There are many layers to this and it all takes time to clear.  One client I saw today said “You know, Candace, I truly get now what you mean when you say that you have to get real about how you feel so you can heal.”  She also said that realization has come in many different iterations.  She asked me why it keeps going deeper, layer by layer it anchors more and more.  I said because there have been many years that your wounds have been making decisions for you about yourself and your life.  There have been years of conditioning to clear.  There have been many cycles that you saw as validation or evidence of the lie rather than the truth of you.  Bottom line is that until you are truly stripped down to your authentic self, there will be new levels of wisdom.  Once you reach the BIGGEST TRUTH, you will find yourself at home.

If you still feel you project your power onto others or look for confirmation or validation that you are enough…… you have more layers to peel.  If you find your sense of self is dependent or goes up and down with the conditions of your life, you have more layers.  The last layer comes after all the work when you finally see through your own experience that YOU were never the one who was wrong.  You never had something wrong with you.  The lie that kept you tethered to the toxic ex or the disempowering career was that doubt in your own worthiness.

The biggest TRUTH my client came to today, is the one I have been preaching from the mountain tops for over a decade. This truth is the one that will set you free, but it will only do that when you start to live your life, your decisions and your self concept from the reality that YOU are not wrong – the world you grew up in, were conditioned by and disempowered from was WRONG.

This is when you start to integrate and become whole.  You start to live from that integrated place called INTEGRITY.  When you live your life from this place, you RISE. 

Candace van Dell is an international Spiritual Coach & Teacher. Learn about Healing your core emotional wounds and toxic relationships for good. Check out Candace’s free YouTube channel and New Podcast MISUNDERSTOOD: Guiding Highly Sensitive People Through An Emotional Dark Age for wisdom and insight like never before. https://candacevandell.com/