By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, Relationship Crisis Consultant. Feeling resentful? When you feel it, do you immediately beat yourself up and tell yourself you’re not being nice, fair, patient, or compassionate enough? Instead of taking...
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD. Breaking the Bonds of Emotional Abuse. Do you feel you’re expected to be a doormat for someone? And, like it? If you’re codependent, you may not realize that you have...
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD. Ever awoke to the early morning anger of a toxic person? Nothing has really happened yet, and already you’re scrambling to say or do something that will appease them, make...
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Are passive-aggression and codependency odd bedfellows? Not at all. Codependent people are often fearful of directness. Passive-aggressive people avoid directness at all costs. So, it’s a fit! Neither are usually...
When you must tread lightly because of a fragile ego, tiptoe around someone’s short temper, or be careful what you say or how you say it… that’s walking on eggshells. Do you recognize that...
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Often Feeling Resentful? How That Can Be a Glaring Clue to Underlying Codependence
By Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D. Feeling resentful? When you feel it, do you immediately beat yourself up and tell yourself you’re not being nice, fair, patient, or compassionate enough? Instead of taking it on as a fault in yourself, stop and ask yourself, “Am I in a relationship that is out of balance: no equality, no reciprocity, no mutuality?”...
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Why Codependency Stops You from Attracting Your Dream Partner
By Marlena Tillhon. Before I knew anything about codependency, I thought that putting myself last made me a good partner. I thought that being overly concerned with my partner’s moods, wishes, preferences and needs showed that I cared. I thought that tolerating behaviours I now recognise as harmful, unhealthy and unacceptable was my way of proving my...
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Top Mistakes to Avoid When Dating as a Recovering Codependent
By Bethany Dotson. Will I EVER be able to trust myself again? This may be the constant song playing in your mind. After 40 or 50 years of repeatedly attracting narcissistic, addicted or emotionally unavailable partners…It’s only natural to begin thinking that something’s wrong with you...
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