By Stephanie McPhail, MS. The world of dating and relationships is fraught with complexities, misunderstandings, and yes, occasionally the downright toxic. Too often, professional women who’ve encountered a toxic relationship find themselves falling into...
By Stacy Brookman, Leadership & Resilience Coach. An Ocean of Emotions: Diving Into the Depths of Overwhelm and Codependency Life can often feel like an unpredictable ocean. One minute you’re smoothly sailing, and the...
By Candace van Dell, Master Coach & Spiritual Teacher. The root of Codependency is Insecurity. The root of insecurity is unworthiness, the root of unworthiness is uncertain identity. The root of uncertain identity is a lack...
By Carista Luminare, Ph.D. We all get triggered from time to time. In almost every relationship, people react depending on their individual experiences and sensitivities. Here are 10 common triggered reactions. Which of these...
By Candace Plattor, M.A. How to Set Effective Boundaries When You Love an Addict: Three Excellent and Proven Strategies ** PART 2 ** Welcome back, Everyone! Another month has flown by since I told...
By Krista Resnick -Master LifeCoach/Restorative Yoga Teacher. People-pleasing, overhelping, overgiving—we can give it lots of different names, but the consequences to putting yourself last all the time are generally the same. You may have...
By Susan Ball, Abuse Recovery Mentor. What is Shame? Shame is often viewed as a corrosive emotion, a feeling that stings and stains, one that many of us wish we could avoid. But what...
Relationships are one of the most vital sources of emotional support and joy. But there’s a fine line between healthy interdependence and codependency. Codependency can take a toll on one’s self-esteem and self-worth. Often...
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, Relationship Crisis Consultant. When you hear the word “abandonment,” you likely picture being left behind in a physical sense. But have you considered the idea of abandoning yourself? Sounds impossible,...
By Marshall Burtcher. Receiving someone’s disappointment with you is one of the biggest, scariest elements of codependency. This often invokes stomach-churning anxiety, shame-filled nausea, and activates the fawning response of pleasing and amplified apology...
By Briana MacWilliam MPS, ATR-BC, LCAT, Licensed Creative Arts Therapist and Attachment Coach. In the realm of relationships, codependency is a term frequently used to describe an unhealthy pattern where one partner becomes overly...
By Susan Ball, Abuse Recovery Expert & Mentor. Through my healing journey, I discovered I was co-dependent but I didn’t really understand what that meant. How did it impact my relationships with friends, family,...
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
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Stop Gaslighting Your Inner Child
By Candace van Dell. In my work, I often talk about what we do to our inner child is what was done to us in childhood. We learn to parent our inner child, punish her/him, neglect, reject or abandon (if this is what was done to us). Many of these experiences create codependency...
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Codependency and Childhood Neglect: What You Need To Know
By Briana MacWilliam. How does childhood neglect contribute to codependent relationships in adulthood? In this article we will explore a definition for childhood neglect and codependent relationships, and explore how one begets the other. You will also learn how to recognize if you have experienced childhood neglect...
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The Natural Attraction of Codependents and Narcissists
By Carista Luminare. I have been a relationship counselor for 44 years, specializing in how the bond with our primary attachment figures impacts our adult intimacy dynamics. Our childhood experiences and development define our capacity to know what Love IS (and is not). Because of my childhood and later life relationships...
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Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship?
By Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D. When you must tread lightly because of a fragile ego, tiptoe around someone’s short temper, or be careful what you say or how you say it… that’s walking on eggshells. Do you recognize that you are walking on eggshells? It’s a difficult and uncomfortable way to be in relationship with someone! Are you always...
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By Krista Resnick. Codependency created much pain and agony in my life. One of the ways it manifested most was my extreme lack of self trust. I would overthink decisions to death, fearful that I would choose the ‘wrong one,’ or upset someone if they didn’t agree or were disappointed by my choice. I was terrified of...
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What Codependency Really Is & What It’s Doing For You
By Marshall Burtcher. Have you been told any of these things about codependency:
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What Does Codependency Look Like in Family Relationships?
By Yasmin Kerkez. Codependency is certainly not a new condition, and awareness of codependency is growing in the greater community. At the same time, it’s also one of those labels that many of us have heard of but don’t know exactly what it involves. In the media and online, it is most commonly linked to romantic relationships, people who exist in a caregiver role...
