By Michelle Farris, psychotherapist and codependency expert. Even though 12-step programs have been around for almost 90 years, they are still largely misunderstood. You may think you know what 12-step groups are but unless...
By Dr. Nicholas Jenner This method requires a commitment to work on oneself and an acknowledgment that codependency is a problem in relationships. This involves embracing responsibility for change and not shifting it (or...
All children require a sense of safety and predictability in order to develop a healthy sense of self. One’s self concept can be understood as the cornerstone of life. Every thought, belief, and decision...
By Krista Resnick, Master Life Coach & Boundary Expert Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries…we hear about them all the time, so if they are so essential to our own well being, THEN WHY IS IT SO...
By Michelle Farris, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist One of the major pitfalls in codependency is constantly worrying about what others think of you. Codependent people spend most of their time and energy trying...
By Yasmin Kerkez Codependency is a common relationship struggle within the family unit. Let’s look deeper into the areas of codependency to really understand what behavioral patterns exist – so that we can then...
By Marlena Tillhon I recently asked my audience what they want most from their romantic relationship and the top answer was ‘to feel loved’. Of course. It’s the same for me. Always has been,...
By Stephanie McPhail, MS Why do we sabotage ourselves? Have you ever had the frustrating experience of wanting more for yourself, but finding you think, feel and act in ways that are contrary to...
How does childhood neglect contribute to codependent relationships in adulthood? In this article we will explore a definition for childhood neglect and codependent relationships, and explore how one begets the other. You will also...
In my work, I often talk about what we do to our inner child is what was done to us in childhood. Welearn to parent our inner child, punish her/him, neglect, reject or abandon...
Not long ago, I was asked this question while I was being interviewed on a podcast: Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? It was a terrific question, and...
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This Is How to Deal with Anger Toward an Addict
By Candace Plattor. Is it ever ok to get angry with the addict I love? The truth is that many people who love addicts are people-pleasers, which is another term for codependency. My simple definition of codependency is when we put others’ needs ahead of our own, on a fairly consistent basis. Codependent people sometimes feel very guilty when they try to have their own needs met – believing, in some cases, that they are not worthy of having their needs...
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7 Ways to Recognize A Toxic Relationship & What You Can Do About It
By Stephanie McPhail. Along with physical wellness and financial security, having healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to a balanced and fulfilling life. Sometimes, even when we appear to have achieved these things on the surface, there are indicators that we’re lacking the necessary ingredients to sustain them. When they go unaddressed, these detrimental factors will eventually undermine the contentment we desire. By learning to recognize the signs of imbalance, we can begin to take steps to correct them and...
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Codependency Recovery: 7 Steps for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
By Michelle Farris. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to codependency. Whether you relate to a few traits or all of them – recovering from codependency looks different on every person! In relationship, the codependent person ends up doing most of the giving. You give way past the point of it hurting because you need that person to make you feel whole. When codependency is an issue, you crave other people’s approval. You’re constantly looking outside of...
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By Kevin Petersen. Addiction. It’s a disease that affects the entire family. When a person suffers from addiction, it creates a detrimental impact on one’s life, and it can be difficult to watch someone you care about go through this. But let’s face it: it’s common for family members to take it upon themselves to try to heal a loved one struggling with addiction. Without proper treatment, this can turn into a toxic..
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The Life-Changing Insight That Helped Me Finally Break Free From Codependency
By Marlena Tillhon. Traditional codependency literature has you believe that codependency usually emerges in romantic relationships. We only become aware of it once we’ve had our hearts broken a few dozen times and leap from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship. In my personal and professional experience, codependency expresses itself through us in all areas of life and not just in our love lives...
